Letter from a father to his son
Hello Marc , I write in again, and this time for a subject that’s a little more personally you, and of considerable importance. As you know, I like to send you letters. This is so that you can keep them in order to read back them later, or even several times, to drill the deeper meaning. As others say, ‘the words fly, the writings remain ‘. The letter will be a little long, but as said your grandfather: “the biggest fish, found in the deeper waters.» Take your time and read it to the end. “We don’t search not in a big hole, without finding a great thing”, say the former.
Marc , you are a man today; a man age to marry and start a family. And at this point, the most difficult is not so much to start a family, but to know who found it. What woman you how accompany you on the way to your life that you have left to go. Told you my son, is not easy. Because don’t never forget that all women can do from girlfriends, but all may not be wives.
Do not base the choice of your wife on fantasies; This isn’t his beautiful mouth making you happier in your household. Chosen for its pride, integrity and self-respect. Respect your wife will be for you, depends on the respect she wears herself. It is on this basis that the company will meet you. Because if your wife does not respect you, it will be the same for your entourage. My grandfather also said that “the honors of a man sleeping between the legs of his wife. Viewing these men wives insult publicly, what respect do you think their surroundings their door? “The woman is the belt that takes the man’s pants”, do not forget this wisdom of our home.
Most of the children’s education is instilled by their mother. Since the father is rarely present. Therefore, it is important to take into account what your lady has in his head before you decide to have offspring with it. A woman who thinks that the best way to succeed in today’s society is to be beautiful, defaced, or well, is a woman who has nothing to life. This one is similar to a vulgar decorative object. Therefore pay attention to it, because what she thinks, she him indoctrinate your children. “If you ask a dog to educate your child, did marvel not to see your child walk on all fours”, your grandmother often told. Your wife must learn to your children the meaning of efforts and work. Particular to your daughters. The social success of a woman, is no longer to marry a man who has already succeeded in society.
Choose your lady also for his ability to take care of you. We do not courted his future wife as it courted a girlfriend. Often takes you spend a few days in order to evaluate it on this side. For example, you can learn if she knows how to take care of a roof, and especially cooking; It is very important. Where the importance of priority appointments at home, in restaurants. A meal concocted by his wife worth millions of times better than a plate of restaurant. There, it is not known which kitchen, or how.
Avoids a lazy obsessed with its outer shell, which will more time to pass a mirror to ensure the safety of his home. To know what type of slogger is a woman, viewing her nails. If they are long and as shiny as a piece of furniture from the Presidential Palace, tell yourself that one has never held a broom in his life.
Choose your wife for his reports with your family. Do never accept in your House, a woman who is going to put a barrier between you and your inbred. The woman, you’ve had it on the road, you can lose it at any time. The family did not start, the family has no end.
Choose a woman with a big heart. With us, it is not two people who marry, but two families coming together. Our families are sometimes unbearable, it is like that. It is important to know if it will be able to support the whims of your old father, and perhaps the rejection of her sisters-in-law… If in our customs, then marriage the bride carries a basket or a perforated hood is not for nothing. This trash is his heart. It should put the vicissitudes of marriage.
And as it is full of holes, it will never fill. Therefore, your wife should be. If some marriages last, this is not because they don’t know of difficulties, but because when her companion was well chosen, we support them better. A lady who folded luggage for a Yes or a no, will only pass through your life, sooner or later. “A river overflowing each rain made flee campers,” said grandfather. Do the frequent family, brothers and sisters, in order to see how their relations. How it behaves, for example, when one of your sisters looked at it wrong…
Observes the people and places that she frequents. What is printed in our heads, just from our immediate surroundings. If she spent her life in boxes of nights and flow of drinks, surrounded by party girls and light legs, you can pretty much make you an idea that you count put in your House. “A fish that comes from a poisoned water, is not good to eat”, I was often told my grandfather.
It should make your problems, his own. And not one that will take her legs her suddenly as soon as the ship will take a little water. Marriage has highs and lows. If it is not able to cross all situations with you, it is an opportunist to be rid. In this connection, does it not say home when you adopted a dog, you adopted its chips? If it sees only upsides, flee oh! To be fixed, do part it time in of some of your difficulties, even when you did not. Just to see his reaction.
Finally, selected for its ambitions. Your wife should be able to push you to the top. It must not only be an incubator of ideas, but support in your projects. Know tell you when a project is good or not… Avoids taking someone who is going to be a burden. Which, when you do the balance of your life after a few years, didn’t you will help to progress. You must therefore, while you will be attending, outline some plans. Then you shall keep his reaction to evaluate it on this side. As you see, you do not build his life for his wife, it builds with it.
In short, for the rest, it will teach. Because the marriage is also a school. Do you expect therefore not necessarily to find a woman who meets all these criteria, but who will be able to improve. Keep into account my recommendations my child. They do not guarantee you a perfect woman, but one that you can easily bear.
Your old father.